Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Taking Over Mama's Tasks

One night last month, we disciplined 9 year old Will. He was angry about his assigned chores and yelled at me, "You never do anything. You're just a lazy mom who bosses me around!" So.... I took a deep breath and let it be true. He got to finish his chores then do all mine. Fix dinner, refill plates at every other bite, make sure other kids get their stuff done, cut up our food, clean up after dinner, change out loads of laundry, sweep up cat litter, get the plants in from the rain, and clean kitchen -- all in the two hours before bedtime. He also had to listen to me complain that daddy was kicking me under the table and he got to keep the three 6-year old "helpers" from making a mess while they put plates on the table. The only bad parts? Everything was cold, and one of the kids was carrying a plate and the dog licked it... No one could remember which plate it was after they were put on the table.
Allen commented that what pleased him the most about the ordeal was that Will didn't give up on our standard rules.  Will got on to Allen for picking up his whole steak on my fork and gnawing on it - Will went and got a knife and even started cutting it.  Will made sure everyone ate their dinner before dessert, made a good, balanced dinner and even helped finish off some leftovers. He was stressed, frustrated; he bent but didn't give up or break. He did a good job - didn't serve candy for dinner, didn't let us run wild, and did everything with (maybe not) a smile - but without going completely insane.
By the end, Will understood me a lot more. He was pulling at his hair and begging the kids to go to bed and stay out of the kitchen. Lesson learned? We'll see...but he slept well that night!

The Springtime Garden

Monday, June 3, 2013

Frequent Visitors

Juvenile and male bluebirds on the fence.

Juvenile bluebird (front) and juvenile house finch (back).

Planting a New Garden

One of the projects for May was to build a raised keyhole garden. It was a main component of my month of reducing waste, and we knew several weeks ago that we were a bit "off" in our timing for optimum planting for summer produce. However, we spend a LOT of money on many of the fruits and veggies that we can grow in the fall and maybe even in winter, so we went ahead with the late spring garden. In April, Allen and I chose the design of a low-water garden and started searching for the most cost-effective way to build it. Looking at the time and money investments needed, we chose to go with a kit. I ordered it the last week of April, and it was on our porch two days later on the last day of April.

I had planned on waiting a day -- till May -- to begin construction, but Allen couldn't wait. He popped open the box and started working right away. I went to bed early, expecting him to do something other than keep working, and when I woke up, the walls were complete after a couple hours of him working on it. My husband is a sweetheart!

That weekend, we did some experimenting trying to decide the best place to put it. The frame is made of metal conduit, and the corrugated sides are a polycarbonate -- except for the size of it, it is very easy to move at this stage. When we chose where it would go, we dug around the frame a bit so that we could make it sit on the ground evenly. We didn't even need to remove the grass underneath, we just covered it up. First we made a layer of several inches of sticks from the yard. The not-quite solid layer would give the garden a way to drain excess water. The funny looking tube of chicken wire through the middle is where we will put our kitchen scraps for compost.
Next, we covered the sticks with newspapers and large pieces of torn cardboard boxes. We cleaned our garage out with this layer! The kids played lots of games with big boxes and it didn't take long (sliding down the slide) to make them soft enough to tear. After we made a really solid paper layer, I started wetting it all down with the hose.
The third layer was fresh grass clippings as Allen was mowing while I was working on the layers. Lots of green grass means lots of water, and that layer will be far enough beneath the garden surface that even if there were some weeds, they shouldn't cause much trouble. Again, we soaked the layer with water.
Next, we started filling in with our own huge pile of compost that we've been working on for several years. Though our pile was big, once we started wetting it, we knew we would need to purchase some more to fill the garden. We bought and mixed manure and more compost into our pile and filled the garden -- wetting the layers as we went because we wanted to start with a very wet garden. The reason this type of garden needs so little water is because it retains so much water. Putting the water in to begin with is easier if we do it layer-by-layer (I'm not making this up, we spent more than a month just researching this type.) The best part about adding our own compost is that we could make sure to add lots of big earthworms to the garden. They will help break down all the layers we added, plus they can start working on the compost bin, too. There should be lots of nutrients in our new garden! Not too bad for an afternoon of work.
The following weekend, we covered the dirt layers with pine straw and started planting some veggies. The plants have been in for about three weeks, and I've only added water twice -- both times, I only added a bucketful. Everyday, we add our kitchen scraps to the compost bin through the center (the chicken wire tube), so we have dramatically reduced our kitchen waste since we are composting again. Our goal is to grow some of our own produce and cut down on the amount of spending and packaging we used when we got the same things at the store. As of now, we have planted corn, green peppers, cherry tomatoes, and strawberries. I've also started some seeds for beans, watermelon, and cucumbers. When it cools down a little bit, we can cover the garden with a clear tarp and grow some salad leaves through the winter.... at least that is what I aim to do.

Sunday, June 2, 2013

Evicted

This was my first time evicting an avian family, and I was a little bit sad to do it. A pair of house sparrows built on top of the last bluebird nest after the bluebirds fledged. The sparrows' nest filled the box and started coming out the sides, but I never could see which birds were nesting in the birdhouse. One of the days we were working on the garden, I finally had proof of who had moved in. I almost let them stay, but I really, REALLY love having my yard full of bluebirds, and if I let the house sparrows stay, they'd chase the bluebirds away. I scooped out their nest and was a bit sad to see I was a little bit too late -- there was a lonely egg in the bottom. The sparrows were persistent and within the hour, they started rebuilding even though I was working on the garden right next to the birdhouse. Again, I removed their building supplies and they sat on the fence tweeting at me. After several reruns of the same scene, I squirted the house out with the hose, and propped open the front so it could dry. The silly sparrows tried again, but eventually gave up. That all happened on May 4th, and today, I'm excited that the birdhouse has four bluebird eggs waiting to hatch.

Exploring the botanical gardens

Our nephew Beckham celebrated his birthday on an already-overloaded weekend (for us), so we decided to head to Melissa at the end of April to see him and celebrate Nana's birthday at the same time. The six of us spent Saturday with Nana and Papa at the Ft. Worth Botanical gardens -- just walking around and exploring, and even finding a couple of letterboxes. It was a great weekend to spend outside, and we all enjoyed it. The kids had a lot of fun wandering through the park, and I had a chance to try my pocket-sized camera in manual mode. I still have some learning to do, but it was a beautiful chance to take photos!

Saturday, June 1, 2013

A Month Without Writing

Wow! I finally have a moment to catch up the blog, and I realize how long it has been since I've written. Usually, I have several stories started and I just need to sit down to finish and post them. This time, however, I have not had time to even start. So... I'm just going to pick up where I left off and try to fill in the gaps of what has happened in the last month or more. I have photos from so many events to sort through -- the Ft. Worth Botanical gardens, our new garden, Cub Scout events, school field trips and awards ceremonies, a play, nests and baby birds, and lots of everyday moments and kids' artwork worth remembering.

Yesterday was the last day of school for Ben, Maddie, and Jon, so I am back to being a stay-at-home mom. The last month has been a whirlwind of activities and every time I had a moment to stop, I took a quick nap. We started the month with some dental check-ups (all is well), and quickly filled our weeks with camp fundraisers, Cub Scouts, book club for me, teaching Maddie's class about money for a couple more weeks, sorting food donations during a big food drive, attending Will's class presentations, working at the food pantry and PCM office weekly, spending half a Saturday at a neighborhood meeting, choir rehearsals for the kids, Allen and I speaking to two groups at Will's school about engineering, Will was in a play, scout family camp (minus Mama), Sunday school class ladies' retreat and preparing to teach a class for it, kindergarten field trip, hosting a cookout for some of Allen's coworkers and families, going to some meeting to bring PCM and our church together, starting a book club for Will and his peers, doing regular grocery shopping, making sure kids have summer clothes that fit, gathering everything I need for my trip, and spending countless hours on the phone with the insurance company, pharmacy, and doctor's office trying to sort out the mess of getting my last few vaccinations for Uganda. Really... I've been so busy, just aiming to take it one day at a time for sanity's sake, that when I stop, I grab a few minutes of a nap.

Now, I'm working on making time to write each day ... at least until I get May's stories written.